Sex, Shame & Sobriety: Why You Need a Sex-Positive Therapist
There are certain topics clients hold close—and sex is often one of them. That doesn’t surprise me. In the U.S., we’re taught that sex is a “private matter,” something not to be talked about openly. But when something becomes untouchable, it usually becomes coated in shame.
That shame doesn’t just stay at the surface—it seeps into how people relate to their bodies, their desires, their relationships, and especially how they show up in therapy. And when substance use or addiction is part of the story, that shame tends to grow even louder.
Where better to bring this conversation than the therapy room?
A space where all of you should be welcome.
A space where no part of you is shamed or silenced.
This is why finding a sex-positive therapist matters.
Asexuality Is Real: Honoring the Spectrum of Human Connection
Asexuality, often shortened to “ace,” is a sexual orientation characterized by a lack (or low experience) of sexual attraction to others.
It’s not the same as:
Celibacy (a choice to abstain from sex, regardless of attraction)
Low libido (which can result from medical or psychological factors)
A trauma response (though some ace folks do have trauma, as do people of all orientations)
The key word here is attraction.
Asexuality is about how someone experiences desire, not about behavior, trauma history, or hormone levels.
I’m a Therapist. I Still Worry About Forgetting My Pain.
I always cried.
In bathroom stalls at school. Alone in my room. During the beginning, middle, or end of songs I pretended not to relate to.
There was a time I didn’t understand what was happening in my body—only that it hurt. That it was so loud. Everything felt too bright, too sharp, too heavy... so heavy. My internal storm never cleared. It just lingered.
I was the teenager who walked through the world like an open wound. I felt everything. And I learned quickly that the world isn’t kind to what it doesn’t understand.
You Are Not a Problem to Solve: Radical Acceptance in a Fix-Me World
Even the self-help world can quietly whisper that if you're still struggling, you're somehow behind.
The message—“When will you finally be better?”—is everywhere.
And even if no one’s saying it out loud, we repeat it to ourselves.
Because deep down, we just want to be happy. To finally be okay.
Every struggle we face somehow becomes a personal flaw to eliminate.
But here’s the thing:
Humans are not projects.
We are not…
What to Do When Your Heart Feels Like a Storm: A Guide for Deep Feelers
You know who you are.
You’re the one with the storm in your chest.
The one who feels so deeply.
You feel what others might not.
And sometimes, you feel what they feel too.
It’s a lot.
The world around you hasn’t changed much,
but inside, it feels like chaos.
If this sounds like you, you’re in the right place.
This is for you.
You’re not alone.
Why Healing Isn’t Linear—And Why That’s a Good Thing
Healing isn’t a straight line—it’s spiral-shaped, layered, and deeply human.
You might feel stable for a while, then suddenly find yourself overwhelmed by a familiar trigger.
You might engage in an old coping behavior—maybe one you thought you’d left behind.
This doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
Healing the Inner Child Without Overwhelm: Gentle Ways to Reconnect with Yourself
What do you mean I have to re-parent myself? How do I even parent? Did my parents even parent? So many questions can bubble up, and with them, a heavy pressure to “get it right.” And let’s be real—you’re already carrying so much. The last thing you need is another task that feels impossible. But what if… you’re doing more than you think?
The Hidden Burnout of Being the Caretaker: How Therapy Helps You Reclaim Your Energy
You’re the one who remembers the birthdays, sends the check-ins, makes the calls, cooks the meals, and holds space for everyone else’s pain.
You’re the helper, the caretaker, the one people lean on.
But lately, you’re tired.
Not just “I need a nap” tired—deep soul-tired.
And yet… you keep going.
Why? Because it’s who you’ve always been. Because stopping feels selfish. Because maybe, if you stop, everything else will fall apart.
Sound familiar?
Not All Helpers Heal: Why Self-Reflection Matters
Humans exist with entire inner worlds—each one of us carrying a universe within that often goes unseen.
You can’t always witness these inner landscapes unless you’re lucky enough to be trusted with a glimpse. And that kind of trust is sacred.
We don’t always know what’s going on inside someone else. I’m not talking about biology—we understand that. I’m talking about the emotional weight: the trauma, the grief, the anger that quietly simmers beneath the surface.
What It Really Means to Belong to Yourself: A Therapist’s Perspective
Belonging is one of the most profound human needs.
And yet, for many of us, it’s also one of the most painful.
You may feel like you’ve spent your life trying to earn a place—by being useful, agreeable, put-together, successful, or even invisible when needed.
You may have learned to shape-shift in relationships, reading the room before reading yourself.
You might have asked quietly, “Is there a space for me as I really am?”
And if you’re honest, you might not be sure of the answer.
As a therapist—and as someone who has sat in this very question myself…
You’re Not Broken—You’re Responding to a Broken System
If you're feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, angry, or like you're constantly carrying too much—you're not broken. You're responding, beautifully and resiliently, to a world that often asks too much, gives too little, and leaves little room for softness or slowness.
Here, you don’t need to perform, shrink, or prove anything. This is a space where we name things. A space where therapy isn’t just about “fixing” you—it’s about understanding you in the context of your lived experience. It’s about reclaiming your truth in a world that often tries to silence it.
You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. You’re responding exactly as anyone might, given the weight you’ve been asked to carry.
You Were Here. And It Was Beautiful. I Hope You Noticed.
The 1990s were 10 years ago. It’s somehow still permanently 2010. The last time I remember things feeling even remotely normal was 2019, when my mom was in the hospital for CHF. I was so sad at the thought of losing her. And now, looking back—what could’ve just been yesterday, as far as I’m concerned—it felt so good to hug her...
Life is so short. These days, we’re lucky if we make it to 80. If we’re really lucky, maybe 100. One hundred short years.
Think about those weeks…
From Guilt to Growth: How Therapy Can Help You Stop Overfunctioning in Your Relationships
You do so much for the people in your life. You make sure they’re happy, that they’re cared for. You might even do it all with a smile on your face and encouraging words. These people mean everything to you—and their happiness becomes your happiness.
Seeing them upset feels worse than how tired you are.
Because let’s be honest:
You. Are. Tired.
⚠️ Disclaimer
The content on this website is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Engaging with this content does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in need of mental health support, please reach out to a licensed professional in your area.
This space is meant to inspire reflection—not to replace the healing that happens in a safe, therapeutic relationship.