People Pleasing Is Not Love: Seeing the Truth Beneath the Sacrifice
People pleasing often begins in childhood. Maybe love was conditional—given when you behaved, achieved, or stayed quiet, and withheld when you expressed too much. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, learning that peace depended on you disappearing.
Over time, your nervous system encoded a rule: If I meet everyone else’s needs first, I’ll be safe. If I sacrifice myself, I’ll be chosen.
That rule may have kept you safe as a child. But as an adult, it sabotages your relationships.
You Are Not a Problem to Solve: Radical Acceptance in a Fix-Me World
Even the self-help world can quietly whisper that if you're still struggling, you're somehow behind.
The message—“When will you finally be better?”—is everywhere.
And even if no one’s saying it out loud, we repeat it to ourselves.
Because deep down, we just want to be happy. To finally be okay.
Every struggle we face somehow becomes a personal flaw to eliminate.
But here’s the thing:
Humans are not projects.
We are not…
What to Do When Your Heart Feels Like a Storm: A Guide for Deep Feelers
You know who you are.
You’re the one with the storm in your chest.
The one who feels so deeply.
You feel what others might not.
And sometimes, you feel what they feel too.
It’s a lot.
The world around you hasn’t changed much,
but inside, it feels like chaos.
If this sounds like you, you’re in the right place.
This is for you.
You’re not alone.
Why Healing Isn’t Linear—And Why That’s a Good Thing
Healing isn’t a straight line—it’s spiral-shaped, layered, and deeply human.
You might feel stable for a while, then suddenly find yourself overwhelmed by a familiar trigger.
You might engage in an old coping behavior—maybe one you thought you’d left behind.
This doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
Healing the Inner Child Without Overwhelm: Gentle Ways to Reconnect with Yourself
What do you mean I have to re-parent myself? How do I even parent? Did my parents even parent? So many questions can bubble up, and with them, a heavy pressure to “get it right.” And let’s be real—you’re already carrying so much. The last thing you need is another task that feels impossible. But what if… you’re doing more than you think?
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